Close to eighteen months back, I was sitting right at this place - my home - and wondering how life in US would be. And now that I am home for vacations, people inevitably ask me one question, ‘Hows life in US?’ Tough question. ‘Is it better than here in India.’ I really dont know. ‘Are you going to settle in US?’ Stop asking me questions I have no definite answers to!

But today, I am thinking. Thinking how things have changed in India, or Mumbai to be more precise. ‘Hows life in India after eighteen months?’ Nice! Nice question I mean!! The city has improved I must say. For a shocker, I find ‘Do not litter. Else pay Rs. 200/- in fines’ huge billboards along the Eastern Express highway. So whats new? Do people even read that, I asked my dad. Smiling back, he replies he has seen some cops collect the fine. Wow, Mumbai has taken the first step towards a disciplined life. Shocking enough. Although I still find litter along the roads, I appreciate this small step taken and executed.

The next major thing that stands out is the increasing number of tall towers sprouting up everywhere. I climbed one up in Matunga opposite Ruia College, still under construction. Onto the twenty-second floor, shall we? It was slightly hazy that day. To the north, I could see the hills at Ghatkopar. A peep down and I could see some toy trains. I immediately identified them as Central Railways. A toy train was just halting at its toy station of Matunga. And yet another vanished under the Tilak bridge to reach Dadar. At some distance north-west, I saw a plane which had just taken off. Maybe on a clear day, I could see the airport as well. I thought I would identify other landmarks for you, but that would spoil your fun when you see this bird’s eye view yourself. I wandered more in my thoughts and imagined how Mumbai monsoons would be from this height. I can see the rains coming from the south-west, the north is still sunny. Soon, everything will be drenched. I can spend hours after hours by the window watching the rains, the trains, planes, tiny vehicles maneuvering themselves in the maze below full of concrete. Few trees. Countable if I should say. Not many flying creatures around as well. That leaves me sad again and I make my way down through the temporary elevator.

Vehicular traffic has gone up. Roads are being widened. Construction work is everywhere. The air is full of fine cement and asbestos particles. Trees still do have green leaves, but covered with a brownish gray veil of dust. Malls have sprung up everywhere. A good decent lunch now costs you Rs. 200/-. The stock markets are seeing an unreasonable growth. Kids are no longer seen playing on grounds in the evenings. Mosquitoes have grown immune to Good Knight. Ofcourse, pollution is on the rise. I dont have the count of the number of human beings a train carries at peak hours, but can feel more humans per square feet. A man is delighted to find a parking space for his car, 100 metres from his destination. Where is he heading? Where are we heading?

Hmmm, its not that bad. Unemployment has gone down. Our maid-servant’s son spoke understandable English and good Hindi. He did his math good too. Thane Vashi commuting is now a breezer thanks to Central railways. Two extra railway lines have been laid by the Western Railways. ‘Gold cabs’ have been introduced. Number of beggars and homeless people have gone down. Significantly. Dont ask me how, just an observation. Computers have become very affordable; number of laptop owners are on the rise. Cell phones are no longer luxury items, but are necessities. The new tax scheme for VAT is ingenious; loop holes are now sealed. The minimum thickness of polythene bags has gone up considerably. Emission norms for vehicles are in place. Numerous bridges are being built, not to forget the Mumbai Metro project. The work is slow, true, but its promising. Calls to cities all over the country and world have come down. Number of internet users is going high. My mom knows how to operate a PC and internet. Where is she heading? Where are we heading?

And countless other things from both viewpoints that I can bore you with. So, can I ask you some questions now? Is life improving in India? ‘Tough question!’ Given an excellent opportunity on foreign soil, would you like to move to a foreign country or stay in India?

Dont answer that. Yet.

So here are some helpful tips for new comers to this land of USA

1. The Sun rises in the south-east and sets in the south-west. No arguments on this. They simply taught us wrong in the books about the east and west thing.

2. Ask people how are they today. In most probabilities you will get back a ‘Good’ in reply. I have never heard a ‘Fine’ till date. Also, the ‘good’ is most of the times elongated to sound somewhat like ‘gooood,’ unless it is followed by a counter question like ‘Good; and how are you today?’

3. Daylight Savings is an intelligent mechanism to conserve power. And it is a still better mecahnism to lead to confusions. Not to mention, all of a sudden I found myself attending night lecture sessions as opposed to the afternoon lectures I began with; but still conserving electrical energy, dont ask me how.

4. You know winters are approaching when girls on campus start wearing sweatshirts, but still continue with their mini-pants with strategically placed school names and logos.

5. You run out of toilet paper a day or two before your exams. You call it co-incidence if they run out on the day of exams. Having said that, co-incidences do happen.

6. House cleaning is avoided until a relative announces his/her/entire family’s arrival.

7. ‘Soft white light’ is yellow, anything but white for we Indians. For locals, it is white. But a lemon is yellow unanimously for everyone. I am yet to research further on this so as to affirmatively conclude whether these are cultural differences or educational differences, or both or neither. In case of neither, its a pure case of eye defects.

8. You cross roads at right angles. Ofcourse, you have the freedom to deviate two degrees in either direction.

9. The fire alarm has to go off when you cook at home. If it doesnt, get it checked. You never know when it might come in handy.

That’s it for now. Only some of the amazing things here discovered in the last five months.

Note:  The above things sound stupid, because they are stupid. And if this stupidity hurts you, well, I dont care.

It’s been a month since I landed here in US. 18th July doesn’t look long back, but it is. There was excitement everywhere; people coming to meet from all over; if not, then atleast a ring on Graham’s successors. I was busy packing stuff and unpacking and repacking. All the “maybes” a few days back, but “just can’t” today were being moved to the attic. It all looked never ending. After all, I could carry only 96 kgs of my world with me! Realising this some days before I left, I was giving away my belongings to friends and families; but you can’t give away “can’t carry” things gifted from friends over the years. In addition, other practically-junk-but-still-dear possessions amassed over time have to be protected from the hands of the folks and moved to safer places. I couldn’t sleep for those two days with all these excitements around. How could you?

All the initial excitement with which I came here is now long dead. Strange land, stranger people, but probably the strangest of all is the logic here. Or simply call it foreign. How else do you explain the phenomenon of muggers who point a $100 gun just to get $5 out of you? Oh no, I wasn’t robbed but this is the general scenario. Then again some more responsibilities fall on you, for the good though. And then you wonder how your elders managed with all these nitty-gritty things; looking for apartments, doing groceries, cooking, cleaning, laundry, getting gas, electricity, phone and net connections, paying all those bills and deposits before due-dates, opening and maintaining bank details, buying mattresses, beds, study desks, sofas, coffee table, chairs, dining table, all those electronic items like ovens, microwaves, even fans and bulbs…pheww…and these are just the essentials. Heck, forgot to mention about the trash. How many of us have even moved out the trash on a regular basis at home?

And amidst all these, no dear ones are with you. Yes, technology does provide you with innovations like talking to them and seeing them on gadgets, but absolutely nothing can give you the physical intimacy. As a very stupid but cherishable example is that my mom can no longer pull me by the ears to make me stop this post right here and make me have my lunch. Indeed, sounds funny, but think over it again, it’s anything but funny. Need a better example? Think of that beautiful gesture when your mother moved her hand over your head in affection.

Ok ok, I am getting sentimental. But I have a reason; I am almost missing home, almost missing parents, almost missing friends and almost missing you too, reader. Why almost you ask? If it weren’t almost, I would be back home now. There is no place like home!

Also, do pay a visit to Kusum Rohra’s blog. That post touched me, made my eyes moist and made me miss my folks back home more badly. Do I know her? How did I get there? I just searched for Kurla, saw this title and just had to read the whole thing then. No wonder then, I copied the title.

Duh, ran outta time, have to have something to eat and move on with life. Have to move out trash too! All this without ear-pulling is difficult.

Empty handed he came,
Barefoot he left,
Neither did I wish him hi,
Nor would I bid him bye.

Its been a year since he left us. But all the memories are as clear as yesterday. Things have changed since; people have matured. Life has moved on, but here we halt. Remembering a great human, a great friend, a great brother named Deep.

Even as I remember all the fun we had, all the pranks we pulled, the great time we had, it is sad it will never be the same again. It hurts. This is painful. I cannot describe this. The poem below helps.

Our lives go on without you
But nothing is the same,
We have to hide our heartaches
When someone speaks your name.
Sad are the hearts that love you
Silent the tears that fall,
Living our hearts without you
Is the hardest part of all.
You did so many things for us
Your heart was kind and true,
And when we needed someone
We could always count on you.
The special years will not return
When we were all together,
But with the love within our hearts
You will walk with us forever.

It was a hot day in the month of March. The MUSN project was progressing slowly but steadily. It was dusk and we were all on our way back home. Anurag, Kirti, Shauvik and Sneha had already left for their respective buses. Now, we were left with four Kurla going people: Sanket, Varsha, Smita and myself. Pushkar, fellow Robocon mate and a wonderful friend was around working on Prithvi. I decided to wait back to leave with him even as the others proceeded ahead to board an auto-rickshaw to Kurla.

Pushkar soon wound up his work too and now we were seeking out a third guy to give us company in the auto-rickshaw. It is indeed difficult to find a person going to Kurla at this hour. Pushkar spotted someone whom he knew and would accompany us. There were smiles all around. We were on our way, when this friend of Pushkar realised he had some work and left. We sighed, lost hope and the two of us moved on to get the auto and reached Kurla East.

Pushkar, a die-hard foodie, hadn’t had some food for quite some time and went to have a vada-pav - a Maharashtrian fast food having a high satiety value - just outside the start of the foot-over-bridge (FOB). It was an almost daily routine for him now to stop at the Maharashtra vada-pav shop. My tummy was full from the lunch I had a couple of hours back and I waited for him at the foot of the bridge. It seemed that the vadas were being fried and it was taking more time than usual.

An old man, probably in his seventies, was standing at some distance from me. Some men passed between us and onto the FOB. All of a sudden a hand fell on my shoulder from the back. It was the old man. It seemed he was blind. Not looking towards me, he asked,

Beta, Santacruz kaunsi bus jayegi?” (Son, which bus will leave for Santacruz?)

I have never been to Santacruz by this route, but knew that the buses started from the opposite side of the FOB. Gesturing to the other side of the bridge, I said,

Santacruz ki bus east se nahin, west se milegi.” (You will get the bus to Santacruz from the west, not the east side.)

He gave me his ear; looked like he couldn’t hear me properly. After a few seconds, he looked towards the other side. Was he indeed blind, or did he look in the direction I pointed my hand to?

I was now standing on his right, observing him, while he was still looking at the other side. He looked very frail. His skin was heavily tanned. A number of wrinkles covered his face and hands. His hair was silvery with a few splashes of black. He wore a brown chequered shirt; the cuffs were folded above the elbow. The collar cloth had worn off and was soiled. It was anything but stiff. The trouser had numerous raffus over it, the bottoms had weathered away. His chappals were torn too. His foot-nails had over-grown and were obnoxious. He now held my right hand in his own right hand. Pointing to the top of the bridge, he said,

Beta, mujhe wahan tak chod doge?” (Son, could you leave me there?)

He clasped my hand too tight. I wondered where this energy came from considering his frail and shaky body. I could not say ‘no.’ I agreed to leave him there. I forgot Pushkar for the moment and we started our upward ascent. He was taking baby steps over the stairs. I was forced to follow suit. The situation was awkward. How could two persons hold each other’s right hand and move ahead upward? I had crossed my right hand over my left and we were climbing slowly. It was still cumbersome. Each time he raised his foot, I would feel more pressure on my hands; he would grasp it tighter! I could only realise that he was too old to climb, and was scared to take every single step.

We reached the middle of the stairs, the stilt on the Kurla FOB on the east side. I took my left hand closer to his right. He immediately held it and left my right hand. Relief! The journey from Base Camp to Camp 1 had ended. He took some rest. I was watching the change of hands all this time. His hand was thin, fingers long. His palm was full of tobacco stains, the nails showed this more clearly. And coming to think that that hand held me, it was gross!

By now his rest was over, and we proceeded to the summit. Again slowly and steadily, baby stepping, and feeling the grasp more severely whenever he raised a foot. And again I could not take my hand from his hold, although I was uncomfortable with that. We reached the top earlier than I had thought.

Aapko wahan se utar kar bus mil jayegi,” (You will get the bus getting down from that side,)

I said. He still looked in the west direction. He wouldn’t look at me! Nor did he release my hand. The polio dose administrators were staring at me. And there was no sign of Pushkar. Wonder what kept him so long. Surely, it doesn’t take more time to fry vadas than to climb Mt. Everest. Or was he having another helping?
Mein mere dost ke liye ruka hua hoon. Aap jao.” (I am waiting for my friend. You go ahead.)

But he wouldn’t budge, nor leave my hand. Pushkar by now had got the vada-pav. I signaled him that I was moving ahead. “Chalo, chacha.” (Lets move, Uncle.) I am sure he didn’t hear it, but we started moving. And he still had not looked towards me. I wondered whether he was blind, deaf, both or neither. Neither of the permutation fit in.

Pushkar had caught up with us by now. Munching on his hot vada-pav, he moved his head in a manner of asking, “what is going on?” I only shrugged. Kurla FOB, if you been here in the evening, is a crowd of headless people rushing to catch a train home. A proper mob. I was walking half a step ahead of him; moving people aside and making way for him.

We moved towards the west side, at a slow pace. Somewhere in the middle of the bridge the man said,

“Lad, you are a philanthropic. I am obligated to you.”

I was stunned. Not at the compliment, but at the language! He spoke clearly and fluently. I never expected him to speak English. Not with his age, not with his looks, not with his attire. But, he knew the language too well! I replied a humble, “You are welcome, Sir!” Now, I felt the need to look into his eyes. But he never turned his head, neither while he spoke, nor while he listened. I could not read his eyes. I realised we had no eye contact right from the beginning. The communication looked incomplete.

We usually get down on platform 1B to catch a train home. I decided to get down to platform 1A though. I could still catch the same train, but at the same time, I could leave the old man more close to the bus-depot on the west. Pushkar agreed and followed us. We got down the bridge pretty quickly. It didn’t have stairs; instead there was a slope on the left side of this bridge.

We reached the road on the west side. i said,

“Well Sir, I have a train to catch, and I do not know which bus will take you to Santacruz.”

He wouldn’t let go off my hand. He uttered something that sounded like,

Bete, tum mujhe bus tak pahucha do.” (Son, leave me near the bus.)

Chachaji, lekin mujhe pata nahin ki kaunsi bus Santacruz jayegi.” (Uncle/Sir, I do not know which bus will take you to Santacruz.)

We were talking as we moved and still no eye contact. The talk was getting uncomfortable! I decided to connect him to some person going to Santacruz. Pushkar helped me in this endeavour. But when he heard Pushkar asking people to assist him to the bus, he reacted. Now, he’s not deaf! He said a bit sternly,

Bete, tum hi mujhe bus tak pahucha sakte ho.” (Son, only you can make me reach the bus.)

Now, there’s power in his voice too! I could only oblige. I asked Pushkar to ask the conductors around about the bus. Meanwhile, I asked some fruit vendors nearby, too. We got a common reply. A pointer to a double-decker bus standing some distance away. A queue was already entering it. Even before I point the bus to this man, he leaves my hand and starts walking towards the double-decker.

Still no eye contact. He muttered something, which I could never hear in the entire crowd. What followed is crystal clear in my mind till date. I can still visualize the scene.
Pushkar and I are standing some distance away from the bus. The old man enters the zig-zag maze for the queue. He is moving faster I realised. He wants to catch the bus. Then he does the unthinkable.

He steps over the iron bar that acts as the divider in the queue. I cannot believe my eyes. I look towards Pushkar. Pushkar looks back. I can’t believe his eyes too! We both turn back to the old man. He is now already over the bar safely, and is moving still faster. The queue has ended; all people are in the bus.

He reaches the bus. The bus starts. He grabs the bar on the entrance stilt of the double decker with his left hand. The bus moves. He fell on his knees. The knees are on the stilt; left foot still on ground. He turns. Then holds the bar with the right hand as well. He pulls himself him. And finally he squats on the stilt. We are watching this with mouths wide open.

The man who held to my hand for so long could perform such stunts! Why did he need me then? Who was he? Was he God? Was He all the way down here to test me? I do not know. I will probably never know. Perhaps, the clue lied in reading his eyes. But I never saw them! Is that a clue in itself? I do not know. I probably do not want to know. I have done my job and I am happy I did it.

Buddha satiya gaya hai.” (The old man has gone senile.)

I heard a man nearby saying. I was jolted back to reality. Pushkar was smiling. We turned back to the station. I was still thinking what was going around. We reached platform 1A. Pushkar’s friend, whom we left back at college, was already there on 1B. The train arrived soon. The three of us got into it. Pushkar narrated the whole incident to him. I filled in what I felt. He laughed. He made a suggestion to me,

Arey, tera pocket aur wallet check karr.” (Hey, check your pocket and wallet.)

I was jolted back again. He had to be wrong. He better be wrong. I did the needful. He was wrong.

Good people do exist in the world. And I was smiling.